I visited my friend Grace this afternoon. She had an operation last week; she had visited a Mammogram Bus and was informed that there was a lump in her breast. After investigation, it was found that it is cancer, but thankfully it has been found early and she has been told that after radiotherapy, her prospects of a full recovery are excellent. Of course there is always the danger of complications, and other stuff that I don't really understand. But I am holding on to the positive because I don't want to think any other way. She will be fine.
In 2012 I lost another of my closest friends to cancer. She was 52. The cancer was discovered too late to do anything about it. She died within three months of being diagnosed. It was horrendous. I still miss her.
It was lovely to see Grace today, her behaviour showed signs of extreme stress, not only about the cancer and all the things she is facing, but she is worried about everything else in her life, which made me sad to see. I want her to stop worrying about the things she can't do anything about at the moment, and also the things that I really wish she would let go of. I know from my own experience that everyone deals with problems and challenges in their lives at their own pace. I do know that I am a calm person and I do try to shine light on family, friends and situations that need light. I don't push it, I just listen and use reason and logic to try and make emotional problems seem less so.
I will see her again soon and hope that she grows stronger with time. She has some difficult times ahead and all I can do is be there for her.
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